Miss-care-age (miscarriage)
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I will always MISs you,
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I will always honor and CARe for you,
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AGE is only a number, time is infinite.
The title reads this way because I want to emphasize these three words. In this post, I would like to share how I feel when someone I know and love miscarried, due to computations or delivers a still-born baby. First I want to say that my heart goes out to all the mothers that have been challenged by this experience.
A few weeks ago I met a woman at a restaurant who shared with me the story of her daughter who died at birth and continued to give me her card. She also asked if I would like to see a photo of her and I said yes. I was a little surprised to see that the baby in the photo was not alive. I didn’t think too much about this while the mother continued to tell me the ways in which she has been honoring the life of her baby. She was expecting a new baby and had healed enough to be open to receive another gift from our creator.
Well, today a friend of mine in church said that his sister had just miscarried after a five month pregnancy and I was called to share my feelings on this in hopes that something would resonate with him and allow his grieving process for his sister to shift from his sadness.
I shared with him that many years ago when I had been informed that a friend had miscarried, I began to question why this may have happened, spiritually.
After thinking about it for a while, I came to my conclusion that the spiritual life manifesting its way into this life experience may only need to fulfill, let’s say in the case of my friend five months of life, to complete his or her destiny. We have learned through our own social construction, that a lifespan seen through our eyes must be until one reaches, old age, when time to a spiritual being may be very different than we think. So, in fact five months to a baby in the womb of a mother could be 50 years to us. Sometimes I think that our spiritual bodies know when their time in this experience is enough. We may have a hard time letting go of our expectations of what a full life is and find it hard to embrace the time and gift we are given in being apart of this life. I don’t want to be insensitive to the countless mothers who have lived through this experience, but I would just like to offer a different prospective of how to look at this kind of loss. If we can concentrate on the blessing to give life even if it is for a moment we could maybe find some peace in this kind of loss. Also sometimes the gift is to prepare the mothers body for a healthy birth in the future.
A prayer for all of those in this kind of situation.
God give me strength to recognize the gift of life that I was so privileged to experience and let me find peace in the gifts that I received as well as the love I was able to give to my child. I will always honor and cherish the time that I was able to spend with my child and with this prayer I say thank you God and so it is! Amen
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