What angels do on earth….
(Allen Sovory, Me, Trace Devai, Mike Wenger and Lenny Kravitz)
I believe angels, are those spirits that are here to show us how to love ourselves during this earthly experience.
What do you say when a dear friend, who’s 23 year old wife dies of a tragic automobile accident…
He is obviously grieving. It has been several months and he told me that he has been crying none stop since that tragic day. He has bad days and better days but never good days, other than being able to submerse himself in work to distract him from thinking about his pain. He misses her so much that it is a physical pain that seems to never go away unless he his busy.
He told me that he had never been loved so much by someone and can not bare the thought of her not being here.
I took a deep breath and continued to share “My Story” of what the human body, mind and spirit can endure during a period of crisis.
I assured him that as painful as it may seem right now that in time this wound will heal and although he will never forget the pain that he was experiencing right now. One day he will be able to let go of the hurt.
Then I thought about all of the gifts I have received due to my journey through the valley of death. Then, with courage, I attempted to ask him to try and focus on the blessings in this experience. As I got a glazed look of how can I find anything positive in this experience he began to share photos of the car that his beautiful wife was in and how it was a miracle that she was taken out of the car with just a few scratched to her pretty face. Although, he said she had broken her spine in three places. Which to me indicated that she was not in pain because I am sure her body went into shock after her collision. That was a blessing.
He then went on to tell me how he felt so much love from her and that no one had ever loved him with this kind of love. I then said that maybe he needs to learn how to love himself the way she loved him. As I was there thinking about that… I was reminded reminded of a relationship I was in after my divorce where I was clearly loving this person more than myself. When I got out of the relationship I knew that I had to work hard on showing myself the love kind of love that I was so willing to give to another person.
In retrospect, I realized that this may or may not be the time for him to look at his situation in this way but I felt like we had a Divine Appointment and that I was being called to share those words with him.
Our paths had first crossed when he was the one responsive for teaching me the basics of dance in the hallways of Beverly Hills High School during our free period and I would have never imagined then that what he shared with me would become my passion and my career for the next 25 years. With that beginning I have gone on to teach thousands of dance student the passion that he demonstrated in the halls of Beverly.
I know today that we are in each others lives for more than the birth of a dream but to also be there for the death of an old paradigm and grow into our full physical, mental and emotional selves.
His name is Trace Devai and the photo taken above was on the shoot of Lenny’s new video.
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